This is not a day to beat around the bush. We are searching for the truth as are those around us. The only way the truth can be found is through honesty and transparence. Sometimes it seems that the easier thing, the better thing, is to tell a little “white lie”. The truth is that it is the easier thing only in the short run, but in the long run, there is a bigger price to be paid for that little white lie.
(We don’t have to be hurtful to be truthful. We can find gentle ways to communicate the truth with others.)
For instance, let’s say that there is a newlywed couple. They are just setting up home together and adjusting to sharing space with someone else. She is very proud of her bread pudding recipe and just thinks that her bread pudding is the best dessert there could ever be. She makes some for the first time for her new husband. He politely eats one serving of it, but doesn’t say anything about how much he likes it…..because he doesn’t like bread pudding in general, and it just so happens, that his new wifes bread pudding is no exception.
She presses him to tell her his opinion. He squirms as he weighs out his options. He can spare her feelings since she is obviously so excited to share this pudding she makes with him, and so anxious to know what he thinks.
He could tell a little “white” lie and say that it was delicious. If he does, that will encourage her to keep making it regularly for him, and he will have to keep pretending to like it as he politely eats it for as long as they are together.
Or, he could tell her the truth, that bread pudding just isn’t his favorite food in general and there are probably lots of other desserts she could make that he would enjoy much more. Now he won’t be forced to pretend to like something he doesn’t care for anymore, and she won’t spend more time and energy on making her bread pudding because he likes it so much. She will explore cooking other things for dessert that will work better for both of them.
Which one scenario will work better for you? White lying? Or telling the truth?
Peace,
Amista
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