The Lovers Reversed
This card upright refers to balance, yin and yang, male and female energy, a coming together of those two energies, sometimes a romantic coming together, sometimes not such a romantic coming together of two energies.
Today I feel like we are getting a double message from the reversed version of this card. The first message has to do with relationships we are in. And may I remind you that not all of the relationships we have are with people. Some can be with work, some with food, some can be with electronic games, porn, pills, etc., etc.
For a lot of us, most of our relationships are basically pretty healthy. Pretty well-balanced. We are able to keep them in their appropriate priority in our lives. But pretty much all of us have relationships that we haven’t kept so well in balance, or that we have treated is if they were more important or less important than they really are to us in the grand scheme of things.
One of the messages for today is for us to be aware of our relationships with people and with things and if we are prioritizing them in a way that makes sense for us. Also to be aware if we are handling those relationships in a balanced way. Are we obsessed about someone or something? If so, where is that coming from? What can we do to help ourselves bring that back into proper balance again?
(Each of us can only change ourselves, not anyone else, so it is fruitless to ask ourselves, “what can someone else do to make me better?” If we are very honest, the answer, unless we are still helpless children who cannot support ourselves yet, is “Nothing.” We have to do our own work. We have to improve ourselves. Only we know what we like and don’t like about ourselves. Only we know what is in balance and out of balance in our lives. It’s all on us to make things better or worse.)
The second message I am feeling from this card goes a lot deeper. This is a message about the conflicts within ourselves. When this card appears upright, we can infer that the balance of whatever the situation is that me be at hand is in pretty good shape. But reversed, not so much. Reversed, Sacred Spirit uses this card to bring to our attention the fact that we have some conflict within ourselves that we have never totally resolved up to this point. For example, maybe you are a single parent, and you don’t like to leave your child or children with someone else to raise while you are out earning money to feed and clothe and take care of that little person/s. But you still go to work because you feel trapped into it. Like you have to go to work otherwise what will happen to you and your little ones? That’s an inner conflict.
Maybe you are in a social situation where you feel that you have to be nice to someone who you have no respect for at all and you would be perfectly happy if you never saw them again. That’s an inner conflict.
Maybe you have been raised that it is impermissible to have sex outside of marriage, but now your dear child is going to give you a precious grand-baby before he or she and the mother or father are married. You are having mixed emotions about the situation that you are having a hard time figuring out. That’s an inner conflict.
I could give you tons more examples of what I’m talking about when I use the phrase inner conflict, but I know that if you meditate about it, the one that Sacred Spirit is calling you to deal with will come up to your conscious mind pretty quickly.
Sacred Spirit is asking us to be aware of these inner conflicts. To look them over really well. To pick them apart until we know every little bit about why they exist for us. Until we know every little bit about how much of why they exist are reasonable and sane reasons, and how much is fear-driven. Being aware is the first step to settling these inner conflicts. Many times as we examine them in the light of day, holding fear at bay as we do so, the conflict within us disappears right then. Sometimes we have to work on things a little bit longer. Either way, being aware of these is the first step towards healing them, so that we can live in balance with our own selves. Isn’t that really one of the most important things in life? To be in balance, or in harmony with our own self? Because let’s face it, even if EVERYTHING else in life is going super smoothly for us, but we don’t like what we do, or how we talk, or can’t decide how we feel about things, then aren’t we miserable in spite of all the good around us?
For me, this is pointing out to me how I feel about my relationship with my mother. There are things that happened a very long time ago, that I still resent her for. Yet I like to think of myself as a laid back and forgiving person. And, mostly, I am. I know that I have to do some work on myself to get me into that place where I can accept her just the way she is, a place where I can have compassion on her for the things that happened in the past.
Each of you will have your own thing that causes a conflict inside of you. I wish you great progress as you examine that thing and look for solutions for yourselves for that conflict, as you work towards being in harmony with your very self.
Peace,
Amista
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